Ok...so this has been the topic of conversation more than a couple of times in the last few weeks. There are several of us who, through a myriad of circumstances, find ourselves single and in our 30's. So, if television and movies were accurate (yeah right...) we'd all be able to find dates for Friday night well into our 60's. But let's get real! I haven't had a date in years. Well...not a proper date at any rate. And the last guy I dated lied about his age. Turns out, he was a couple of years younger than my parents. That was definitely therapy-worthy fodder right there.
So where have all of the good men (and women for my male friends) gone? It seems that once we reach our 30's everyone has paired up. Well, the ones that aren't sociopaths. But then we think, "Wait. I'm not a sociopath. I know others that are single that aren't sociopaths." So why aren't the sane singles asking other sane singles out? The honest answer...I don't have a clue.
My brother, who is in the same boat as me, was reflecting on this. For men, there have been a few (or more) women who have been absolute nut jobs. These women (dare I call them that) have basically crushed the normal men and left them very wary of any other relationships. The rest of the men just want airhead bimbos...not that I'm judging...wait...yes I am.
So, I asked about women in the same situation. I mean, I'm not Cindy Crawford, but I'm not horrible to look at, I'm educated, intelligent, kind of funny (if I do say so myself), have a great job and generally have a pretty good life.
I guess that this is the problem. Men are (according to my sources) intimidated by these kind of women. REALLY??? SERIOUSLY??? So...here's my response to that. Grow a pair!
We are fabulous women! We are diverse and beautiful and no matter how successful we become, we will always need (and yes, I said 'need') a man for certain things. And, get your mind out of the gutter because I'm not talking about sex (although I'm not discounting that either). We need men for a sense of security that we can never have on our own. We need men for a perspective other than our own. We need men to give us a reality check sometimes...even if we don't always want one.
So guys...take a chance. Some of us may surprise you.
So where have all of the good men (and women for my male friends) gone? It seems that once we reach our 30's everyone has paired up. Well, the ones that aren't sociopaths. But then we think, "Wait. I'm not a sociopath. I know others that are single that aren't sociopaths." So why aren't the sane singles asking other sane singles out? The honest answer...I don't have a clue.
My brother, who is in the same boat as me, was reflecting on this. For men, there have been a few (or more) women who have been absolute nut jobs. These women (dare I call them that) have basically crushed the normal men and left them very wary of any other relationships. The rest of the men just want airhead bimbos...not that I'm judging...wait...yes I am.
So, I asked about women in the same situation. I mean, I'm not Cindy Crawford, but I'm not horrible to look at, I'm educated, intelligent, kind of funny (if I do say so myself), have a great job and generally have a pretty good life.
I guess that this is the problem. Men are (according to my sources) intimidated by these kind of women. REALLY??? SERIOUSLY??? So...here's my response to that. Grow a pair!
We are fabulous women! We are diverse and beautiful and no matter how successful we become, we will always need (and yes, I said 'need') a man for certain things. And, get your mind out of the gutter because I'm not talking about sex (although I'm not discounting that either). We need men for a sense of security that we can never have on our own. We need men for a perspective other than our own. We need men to give us a reality check sometimes...even if we don't always want one.
So guys...take a chance. Some of us may surprise you.
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